Surprises are the best!

One of my best friends, Kim, lives in Hamilton,
Ontario. On an adventure to Hamilton to do some house searching many, many moons ago,
Kim and I were introduced and basically became instant best friends. She shared
her life story, while I listened and played with our mutual friend Cory’s cat. It really was the beginning of an awesome friendship– from that day I knew that when my wonderful husband and I finally moved to Hamilton, there was one person I
could rely on for a hangout, an errand run, and other general fun.
Fast forward to the end of 2015 and Kim and I hadn’t seen each other in 11 months. We skyped and texted to remain in
contact, but my move to Winnipeg left us thousands of miles apart. While the length of time between visits wasn’t supposed to be this long, surprise visit after re-scheduled surprise visit never ended up working out. Until Christmas…
Kim’s boyfriend bought her a surprise trip to Winnipeg for her holiday time off work. She found out on Christmas eve and arrived in Winterpeg on Christmas day! It was fun to hangout and do life together again—spending hours on the couch watching movies, colouring, drinking peach cosmo’s and obviously Taylor Swift in the form of music and concert (on apple music, haha) was involved. As much as we could jam pack our days lingering in the warmth of the apartment, I knew I would need to plan a few things to do together. One of the scheduled outings was to the Human Rights Museum.
Kim and I after our museum adventure.

Even after hearing mixed reviews about the
museum, I knew Kim and I would both enjoy our time taking in all the
information and exhibits the museum had to offer. We arrived on a chilly Sunday
morning eager to use our expired student ID’s and learn more about human

The museum was rich with information on a
global history of how human rights have been denied to many people—from the holocaust, to the residential school system where aboriginal
children were removed from their homes and placed elsewhere; from those with
disabilities being looked at as a sub-human, to rights of freedom of speech,
hate speech and other discriminatory issues. It was eye opening to learn so
many unknown facets behind common events. While some historical atrocities are known
to most people, it’s amazing how many have happened that we had no idea
about—and how many are still happening that no one speaks of.

One display in particular which really
resonated with me was on how our consumerism affects human rights
around the world. The display was made up of solid white replicas of common
items we use—canola oil, cell phones, makeup, etc. You would stand where one item was on display, touch the screen in front of you, and see the information which shows
how we, as Canadians and as members of modern society, are negatively impacting
those around us. From information about minerals being mined for our cell
phones, to children picking cotton for our clothing, it was a display I hope people take to heart when they visit.

The ‘inspiring change’ area was obviously my favourite part of the museum. As you journey from the
first floor up to the seventh, you learn about both the forward strides and
pitfalls of human rights around the world. It’s easy to be discouraged, but
it’s also be a great time to reflect on what we can do to make a difference.  Reflection is encouraged and a space is provided for you reflect, write and share your thoughts on a card to be displayed. Each card begins with a prompt which vary from “I Imagine…” to “I am
inspired by…”, “I believe…”, “Reconciliation is…”, “Inclusion is…” and more.
As someone who is aware of some of the
issues where human rights are denied in the areas of human trafficking, there
were so many things I wanted to write on all of the various cards.
“I imagine a world where humans are treated
as people with hearts and minds, and not as property to be bought and sold.”
“I believe a world with less greed will be
a world where human rights problems are solved.”
“I am inspired by the stories of human
trafficking survivors who teach us to never give up hope, to fight for what is
right, and who encourage us that one person speaking up for the voiceless can
make a real difference.”
While all these thoughts came to mind I was
drawn to the “Respect is…” card.
Respect is something we give out like currency based
on the actions of those around us. Say something I don’t agree with that is
perhaps slanderous to another person? You loose some respect. Stand up for
someone? You gain respect. Make a poor business decision? Respect is lost. Make
financially sound decisions? You are respected…

This becomes tricky. Handing out respect
like currency is like handing out joy, freedom, honesty, and even hate, jealousy and anger with price tags
attached—each one providing you with value, each one making you either a better person or a worse person. What’s
more, is we openly share our personal views of other people to reflect their
‘value’ in our eyes. ‘That person is weird’, ‘That person did xyz so I don’t
respect them’, ‘This person is arrogant’. It’s a vicious cycle of negativity
stemming from one person thinking their opinion of another is the most
important, and their experience dictates what another person should or shouldn’t

“Respect is… understanding acceptance
doesn’t mean agreement. You can love + respect those with different ideals
while holding onto your own.”
Our job isn’t to judge, it’s to love and
listen and discuss and accept people regardless of what they do or what they
think. You can disagree with someone’s choices in life or opinions on things
without negatively dragging them down or saying they are wrong. To them, they
are right.
While this doesn’t work in all extreme
cases (murdering someone doesn’t gain a ‘you be you’ response), in the
case of accepting and loving our neighbors, co-workers, bank tellers, waiters, sales associates, and ‘friends of a friend’, it makes a big difference.

Respect is required.  I can respect you and disagree with your
choices. I can love you as a human being even if I don’t want to live a life
like you do. The concept isn’t hard to understand—let’s make living it out that
easy too!